Monday, March 8, 2010

When It All Starts to Crumble

Some periods of life seem to brim with goodness while others overflow with problems.


I've been a subscriber to UsWeekly for years. Stars on the rise to fame often meet their spouse, get big endorsements, and find themselves invited to glitzy events. But a few years later, the same celebrities often get divorced, no longer hold the public's interest, and find themselves locked out of exclusive events.


Getting published is a slow process. Many of us will experience a period of problems during this time. The problems won't all be writing related, but they'll mount and overwhelm our optimism about future publication. It's like the water dripping torture (sorry, I know that's not the technical term, but you know what I'm talking about). Each new problem will wear us down.


Don't get depressed if your problems begin to accumulate. Recognize you're going through a challenging phase. Try not to let it affect your writing. Cut yourself more slack, take a short nap now and then, and give yourself a huge pat on the back for everything you do right.


We can't avoid the rough times in our lives, but we can continue to work toward our goal every day until the hard times are behind us.

Are you going through a rough patch? A happy period? Or somewhere in-between?

Join me on Wednesday when we look at the flip side.

28 comments:

  1. On the verge of happy. I'm gearing up to write the rough draft of #4. That is my favorite part.

    ~ Wendy

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  2. Good Morning!

    Wendy: First-draft-land!! Woo-hoo!! My favorite place to be. I'm soooo happy for you!

    Thanks so much for stopping by!

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  3. I totally agree, Jill. It's such a long journey, and it's fraught with incredible difficulty at times. One of the top characteristics of a successful writer is perseverance!

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  4. That journey is so worth our efforts, the downtimes making the good times even more satisfying. I'm cruising along right now, querying my fiction and finetuning a nf proposal.

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  5. Jill, As always this is a great post!

    And because your blog is so on, I've nominated you for a blog award. One that requires your participation. Check it out at my blog

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  6. Jill, you are a FABULOUS BLOGGITE.

    Sigh. A bit of a midlife crisis with to-be-published baby. Thanks for counseling!!!

    We will work it out. We're committed. But we are both stubborn.

    LOL..


    Patti

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  7. In between! Feeling the happy and steering through the gloom. Writing is a roller coaster of emotions, but I trust God that if I remain faithful I will reap a harvest.

    For better or worse.

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  8. I've been going through a rough patch! lol More or less due to the constant chaos of sick kids and spreading myself too thin. However, this past week I got a much needed boost and I feel like I can shake it all off and keep going. Today is the first day in a long while since I've even gotten to comment on blogs... your blog happens to be the first one! :)

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  9. Awesome post, Jill! I think changing one's perspective is what change's one's life. Like you said, we can't avoid the rough times in our lives, so it's important to accept that and keep moving forward. :)

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  10. So encouraging, Jill!

    I'm still in happyland. But I'm working on edits. I know it'll change when query and synopsis writing come.

    Where are you?

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  11. Your blogs are always so encouraging. Thank you!

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  12. It's the remembering that it's only a phase and will pass is the hard part. :O)

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  13. Beautiful thoughts, Jill! Those phases can come and go quickly or they can linger. Or we can have little phases cycle w/in bigger phases. I'm sort-of inbetween right now. Very happy that my book is on submission, but a little obsessed about it at the same time. Luckily I have another book I'm working on that I'm totally into.

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  14. Thanks for your thoughts on this. I was going through a rough spot for a while but I've been transitioning into a joyful one. The transition has been interesting, but I'm really looking forward to the new.

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  15. I'm in a nothing patch. Nothing great is happening, and nothing terrible is happening. I can't complain, but I am ready for that happy time!

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  16. This is actually exactly what I needed to read today. I'm in a down phase, and I realized it in the middle of my writing session this morning, after torturing myself with negative thoughts! Thanks for some encouragement.

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  17. I can relate to all of you. I've had highs, lows and in-betweens. Right now? I'm pushing through a rough phase. It's not getting me down, though, because I know it won't last!

    Thank you so much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts.

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  18. Hi Jill -

    I'm in a mini-hurricane state at the moment. My routine is upset by several time-consuming situations. I know everything will straighten out, but losing writing time is frustrating.

    Thanks for the encouragement today.

    Blessings,
    Susan :)

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  19. Thanks for the encouragement! Going through some ups and downs with extended family illnesses and such. But determined to press on and end up where I'm called to be:) I especially like your permission to take the occasional short nap. I knew I liked you!
    Blessings:)

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  20. I am perpetually optimistic, yet in reality, I hover somewhere in between.

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  21. Sometimes the in-between times are the absolute hardest. Do I write something else? Wait to hear? Revise this other thing? What if my agent doesn't want to see it? What should I do?

    So I sit, reading blogs, doing nothing.

    It's just as hard as waiting on agents or editors. So yeah. In-between is tough. That's where I am.

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  22. Rough patch, rough patch! Thanks for the encouragement. I'm anxious to read Wednesday's post :D

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  23. Wow Jill...There have been rough patches all around, but still I appreciate my life. I have some great friends and church family really love and support me. Your blog was encouraging.

    FYI - I linked to your revision process document in my latest post on A Penny For My Thoughts. I hope you don't mind.

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  24. How can I thank you all for sharing your struggles and achievements? Every comment, I'm nodding and thinking, "Yep."

    You guys rock. Enough said!

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  25. I just had to come back and read the most recent comments. Your blog is one of the most encouraging places on the internet!

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  26. I think I'm probably somewhere in between? It changes daily. *grin*

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  27. Jill,your advice is so true. Right now, I have good days and not so good ones. My highly developed imagination usually creates the bad ones. So, I guess this is a good period. Hope so for you, too.

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  28. Oh gosh, does life really afford you anything but in-between? That's where I am for sure!

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