tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post4495414473679078843..comments2024-02-21T03:32:15.577-05:00Comments on Jill Kemerer: When to Say Yes and When to Say NoJill Kemererhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07865493609868329393noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-56738062869981704632014-08-12T12:25:09.405-04:002014-08-12T12:25:09.405-04:00So very true! wonderful post.So very true! wonderful post.Kelly H-Yhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07324529762031928328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-64701689074004949112014-08-11T21:31:38.142-04:002014-08-11T21:31:38.142-04:00I think of all you do for those dogs--that's a...I think of all you do for those dogs--that's a big yes to me!Jill Kemererhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07865493609868329393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-38927721907901426802014-08-11T21:30:48.584-04:002014-08-11T21:30:48.584-04:00Saying no gets much easier when we pray about it. ...Saying no gets much easier when we pray about it. I'm not always great about taking time to ponder a decision, but as I get older, I'm improving!Jill Kemererhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07865493609868329393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-70430255924294648902014-08-11T17:08:39.253-04:002014-08-11T17:08:39.253-04:00These days, with health considerations, most such ...These days, with health considerations, most such requests would get a sad 'no'. But no one's been asking.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-11339098644243620402014-08-11T13:01:39.023-04:002014-08-11T13:01:39.023-04:00So true, Jill. And I love this because it's su...So true, Jill. And I love this because it's such a reminder of how God works and waiting on him. I have a hard time saying "no" but God's really shaped that in me over the years. This was a great reminder for me.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02147043566621884496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-756311744002378352014-08-11T12:22:47.625-04:002014-08-11T12:22:47.625-04:00It's been true in my own life, that's for ...It's been true in my own life, that's for sure! I just have to remember not to say "yes" to too many things when I'm feeling good, or I run on empty all over again. :)Jill Kemererhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07865493609868329393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-79963132513999608982014-08-11T12:21:20.338-04:002014-08-11T12:21:20.338-04:00I'm so glad you recognize how much you already...I'm so glad you recognize how much you already are ministering--to your children, your spouse, and your readers. I'm with you--little kids take everything you've got and then some!! And they don't stay little forever. I'm proud of you!!Jill Kemererhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07865493609868329393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-88217670322174624272014-08-11T12:19:59.590-04:002014-08-11T12:19:59.590-04:00I agree!! We have to listen to our gut. If we have...I agree!! We have to listen to our gut. If we have a bad feeling or our uneasy, it's probably not the right move. And you are right--many Christian women feel trapped in positions God may have only wanted them in for a short season. It's tough.Jill Kemererhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07865493609868329393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-34183261512148003842014-08-11T12:18:08.799-04:002014-08-11T12:18:08.799-04:00I can really relate!!! I've wrestled with &quo...I can really relate!!! I've wrestled with "now they think I'm a lazy jerk." I agree with you--if we can't give our best, it's better to be up front about it!Jill Kemererhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07865493609868329393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-35539976162549469542014-08-11T12:16:37.778-04:002014-08-11T12:16:37.778-04:00I nodded throughout this comment. Yes, when it bec...I nodded throughout this comment. Yes, when it becomes a chore, we need to step away. It's a sign! I love that you volunteer where your passion is--perfect!!Jill Kemererhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07865493609868329393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-26616931777412216882014-08-11T11:40:10.793-04:002014-08-11T11:40:10.793-04:00Like you, I always feel so guilty when I say no to...Like you, I always feel so guilty when I say no to things. But sometimes it just isn't possible. Good advice and a nice reminder that our lives do run in seasons...and sometimes what isn't possible now, becomes possible later. Elizabeth Spann Craighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15625595247828274405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-85546379176004902392014-08-11T10:47:01.626-04:002014-08-11T10:47:01.626-04:00I've had to say no to a lot of ministry (and o...I've had to say no to a lot of ministry (and other) opportunities lately. At first I did feel guilty, but then I realized I can't do everything, and God has called me first to be a wife, then a mom, and for now, a writer. I prioritize all the opportunities by those three criteria (for now). By the time I get through the list of things I do for my husband, my children, and my writing career, there isn't much left of me to give. Though women's ministry at my church is important to me, it doesn't fit into my life right now. However, my children will only be little for a season, and I know I will have the time later on to take on opportunities I have to say no to now. It took me many years to get to a place of peace about this...Gabrielle Meyerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12479898337766911768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-65902947451415748962014-08-11T10:15:10.688-04:002014-08-11T10:15:10.688-04:00My theory, and it seems to have worked out well fo...My theory, and it seems to have worked out well for me and my family, is that if I feel anxious about saying yes, and scared of saying no, then the offer is not something God has planned for me. Learning to say NO is the great, invisible albatross around the necks of so many Christian women.Jennifer Majorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12696261499182486196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-65864307131409415702014-08-11T09:37:50.238-04:002014-08-11T09:37:50.238-04:00Oh my, yes. I've said no to a LOT of things, e...Oh my, yes. I've said no to a LOT of things, especially in the past few years. Most of the time I've felt that requisite guilt at first--or maybe more than guilt, a worry about what the person doing the asking might think! Because even if I know I needed to say no, there's enough of a people-pleasing over-achiever (or, ahem, maybe just pride) to want other people to not think badly of me when I say no. And I can think of one time when I said no when deep down I knew it should've been a yes...so I had to go back later and take back my no. :) But yeah...definitely have had to say no to more lately...I sometimes make myself feel better by saying, "If I would've said yes, not only would I have been sorry about it, but eventually that other person/group would've been sorry they asked me because they wouldn't be getting my best."Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17620457068731162013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-48192541768251162512014-08-11T09:14:45.436-04:002014-08-11T09:14:45.436-04:00I can so relate to this. I've said no to our c...I can so relate to this. I've said no to our church leadership several times. Sometimes it's hard, but I know that it's the right thing to do. It helps me to remember that if I say yes to a position God hasn't intended for me, I'm robbing the right person of that spot. Once I was leading 6th graders, and I heard someone else mention that it was the best part of her week. For me, it had become a chore. That's when I knew it was time to step down. Now I volunteer through using my writing and editing skills. It's a perfect fit for where I am in my life. Julie Jarnaginhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17066689616022777802noreply@blogger.com