tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post3200199413044422669..comments2024-02-21T03:32:15.577-05:00Comments on Jill Kemerer: Marriage is NOT OutdatedJill Kemererhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07865493609868329393noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-50509341168316664422011-06-18T21:35:24.635-04:002011-06-18T21:35:24.635-04:00I attended a beautiful wedding just today that I t...I attended a beautiful wedding just today that I think proves that marriage is NOT outdated... they obviously love each other very much, and have been through a lot together. Their friends and family can attest that they will be better people for not only knowing each other, but being together for the rest of their lives.Abbyhttp://lovedfromthestart.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-1211576385752032722011-06-16T10:53:23.300-04:002011-06-16T10:53:23.300-04:00I think that's one of those concepts that Holl...I think that's one of those concepts that Hollywood demonstrates so often. In Anthropology I studied a concept that is sadly growing, it's called serial monogamy. Basically it's applying the long term relationship ideals and just adding a ring, so when the inevitable break up happens it's just a shift like you broke up with a BF/GF. <br />In this article however, I think it's more about what the publisher wants to convey to sell copies. Celeb's are normal people that we grant additional privileges to as a culture. If this was Bob and Mary down the street it wouldn't be news and we wouldn't think anything of it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01046515540256155412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-16244370797359717762011-06-14T20:07:47.658-04:002011-06-14T20:07:47.658-04:00Damian: I enjoyed reading your take on marriage--c...Damian: I enjoyed reading your take on marriage--congrats to you and Mrs. Dim! May you keep renewing for years to come. :)<br /><br />Thanks so much for stopping by!Jill Kemererhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07865493609868329393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-91701477709191511902011-06-14T11:47:08.472-04:002011-06-14T11:47:08.472-04:00Wow! What an interesting point.... I don't thi...Wow! What an interesting point.... I don't think that marriage is outdated, but as a society, we've changed our expectation of it. I know people who invested all their time and obscene amounts of money into the ceremony, like the day itself was the most significant thing. Mrs Dim and I went through three days of misery post wedding until we both confessed we were terrified we had made a hghastly mistake. Once we realised we were the same people we had always been, we could relax. Fifteen years later, being together is as natural and fun as ever. Like one of your commenters already said , I don't "need" a piece of paper to underline my commitment to Mrs Dim, but I'm glad we decided to stand up in front of our friends and declare it. Privately, we had agreed on only five years, for definite. After ten, we had a renewal ceremony, so the weasels could be there and make some vows too.<br />But Hollywood is it's own world, where who you're married to is as important as why you're marrying them, plus you have to factor in how much they take away if you break up. I think Hollywood marriage might be outdated. But for real people? I think it's a worthwhile thing.Damian Traslerhttp://www.dtrasler.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-60589375278534535112011-06-14T08:47:44.024-04:002011-06-14T08:47:44.024-04:00Kathi: Same here--marriage isn't always (or ev...Kathi: Same here--marriage isn't always (or ever? just kidding) easy! But it's worth it to me!<br /><br />Thanks so much for stopping by!Jill Kemererhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07865493609868329393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-39913075368778893162011-06-13T23:01:07.007-04:002011-06-13T23:01:07.007-04:00I'm with you Jill! What's with some people...I'm with you Jill! What's with some people making blank statements like Diaz? It's like saying one size fits all, which is impossible.<br /><br />I believe marriage is a sacred oath. I love my husband. Yes, we've had difficult times, but we've had more easy times. And I'd much rather go through this journey of life with him than alone.Kathi Oram Petersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11959149321213743448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-43950334958876033862011-06-13T20:14:34.534-04:002011-06-13T20:14:34.534-04:00Nancy: Wow, thank you! I appreciate it! It IS the ...Nancy: Wow, thank you! I appreciate it! It IS the long run that makes it more fun!<br /><br />Brandi: Oh, how sweet! I would have cried too. I'm a sucker for romantic gestures--and how thoughtful and intelligent of your pastor to think of it.<br /><br />Ralene: Yes. I get it too--the idea of marriage just doesn't have as much to offer in society now than it did in the past. And that makes me sad. Well put.<br /><br />Keli: Right on, sister!<br /><br />Jeannette: Yeah, I've been blessed with a great marriage. I can't imagine being in a terrible one. You've reminded me to say some extra prayers tonight--thanks.<br /><br />Jill: Very good points. Marriage is still a foundation for financial stability. Two people working toward one goal... :)<br /><br />Tiffany: You're right. And I think too, we hone our opinions until they stick. I'm sure she means what she says and has valid reasons to feel this way. I, however, feel the opposite because of my life experience. :)<br /><br />Carol: You should be a counselor--there's a lot of wisdom in your comment! (Congrats on 52 years!!!)<br /><br />Thanks so much for stopping by!Jill Kemererhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07865493609868329393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-44820691909452099482011-06-13T19:57:12.724-04:002011-06-13T19:57:12.724-04:00After almost 52 years of marriage, I certainly don...After almost 52 years of marriage, I certainly don't think it's outdated! I'm more inclined to think those who want to make their own rules are people who don't really understand the commitment of the institution. I don't think they realize there is a difference between eros and agape love, and are unprepared for working at love after the immature initial bloom fades a bit. I also suspect if they took longer to prepare for marriage there would be fewer people trying to escape from it later. That's my two bits worth, anyway. :)Carol J. Garvinhttp://careann.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-91792739832366745272011-06-13T19:12:39.351-04:002011-06-13T19:12:39.351-04:00I'm not married, but I also don't believe ...I'm not married, but I also don't believe that marriage is out-dated. I think most of the celebrities who state this, are alone.....trying to justify by placing some sort of political agenda around it.Tiffany A Whitehttp://tiffanyawhite.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-71003249379754063552011-06-13T16:09:02.350-04:002011-06-13T16:09:02.350-04:00How funny and weird that people actually believe w...How funny and weird that people actually believe we're a modern society set apart from all that have come before. Marriage as an institution has weathered all kinds of libertine societies. Why? Marriage makes sense because it's the most financially stable way of raising children and/or growing old. And that's not to mention the emotional stability of always having a good friend. But Cameron Diaz is a rich movie star. Any stability she finds will be emotional rather than financial. Most of us don't have her luxuries.Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05536293384635588296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-22300054340700664622011-06-13T15:27:33.496-04:002011-06-13T15:27:33.496-04:00Oh, I so agree with you, dear friend. I know horri...Oh, I so agree with you, dear friend. I know horrible marriages are a pit of despair, but mine is a treasure--the best gift of my entire life. <br /><br />Thanks for this post!Jeanette Levelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12898750484193832082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-57687135337897668602011-06-13T15:06:30.489-04:002011-06-13T15:06:30.489-04:00Marriage rocks! My husband is my best friend ever....Marriage rocks! My husband is my best friend ever. I can't imagine life without him.Keli Gwynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13236868298400593688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-34594521323861322352011-06-13T14:55:04.509-04:002011-06-13T14:55:04.509-04:00I, too, am astounded by her bold statement. While ...I, too, am astounded by her bold statement. While I definitely don't think that marriage is outdated,I sadly have to see the validity of her statement. Not that what she says is the way it SHOULD be, but that is the trends in society today, and it just makes me sad. You know? The devil is alive and thriving b/c we are turning from the "old ways".Ralenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07890775905785233298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-7691523866630087512011-06-13T14:39:41.496-04:002011-06-13T14:39:41.496-04:00Your post is so timely and on point, Jill. Just ye...Your post is so timely and on point, Jill. Just yesterday at church, our pastor gave a sermon on affair-proofing the marriage and making it last. At the end, he had all the married couples stand up and renew their vows. The men presented roses to their brides. It was very beautiful. I cried when my husband gave me a pink one. <br /><br />Marriage is here to stay, no matter what.Brandi Boddiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08017741568841209088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-49404414558824866222011-06-13T13:52:43.344-04:002011-06-13T13:52:43.344-04:00I totally agree with you. You made your point wit...I totally agree with you. You made your point with great passion and wit. Love it. It's the long run that makes it fun, right?Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15163662759281341381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-58126543856782636712011-06-13T13:21:14.139-04:002011-06-13T13:21:14.139-04:00Loree: You're right. I've never liked maki...Loree: You're right. I've never liked making my own rules. :)<br /><br />Melissa: Ooh, go get 'em, Tiger! Love it!<br /><br />Stephanie: I don't either. Commitment is a beautiful thing.<br /><br />Lisa: I know exactly what you're saying, and I agree. And you're right about Cameron Diaz too!<br /><br />Thanks so much for stopping by!Jill Kemererhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07865493609868329393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-81950733823361074912011-06-13T13:03:05.038-04:002011-06-13T13:03:05.038-04:00Twenty-two years ago I made one of the best decisi...Twenty-two years ago I made one of the best decisions of my life--to marry my husband. Our marriage has had some trials, but he's my biggest supporter. He's my security. He's my friend. I know I can always go to him about anything. I'm so thankful for him.<br /><br />I don't believe marriage is outdated, but I'm a traditionalist with conservative views. I really don't put a lot of stock in what people in Hollywood say. If Joyce Meyer or Patsy Clairmont said marriage was outdated, I'd be more concerned about their thoughts than Cameron Diaz.Lisa Jordanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16334253815212707025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-22218700783403640382011-06-13T12:52:53.675-04:002011-06-13T12:52:53.675-04:00I think it's a commitment issue. I don't t...I think it's a commitment issue. I don't think commitment is outdated at all.Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17401931638397651614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-17237465919338326222011-06-13T12:41:30.871-04:002011-06-13T12:41:30.871-04:00I think marriage is the foundation of a stable soc...I think marriage is the foundation of a stable society. 'Nuff said.<br />;-)Melissa Amateishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16086267508858187716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-33659944858925933212011-06-13T12:40:27.499-04:002011-06-13T12:40:27.499-04:00Marriage is a gift and a blessing.
Some people ju...Marriage is a gift and a blessing.<br /><br />Some people just want to make up their own rules to the game.Loree Huebnerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09845600356878587780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-88746890362612863722011-06-13T12:15:09.448-04:002011-06-13T12:15:09.448-04:00Em: And my UsWeekly (I'm probably a hypocrite ...Em: And my UsWeekly (I'm probably a hypocrite since I love reading about celebrities!) features a glamorous wedding at least once a month. :)<br /><br />Terri: Woo-hoo!<br /><br />Kelly: Wow--congrats on 16 years!! Good points, too!<br /><br />Lynn: I don't believe everyone MUST be married--marriage works with the right person. Without the right person, we're better single. But for those in committed relationships, why not take the plunge? Marriage has a lot going for it! Thanks for sharing on a tough topic. :)<br /><br />Wendy: Me too. :)<br /><br />Cynthia: 26 years! Congratulations! <br /><br />Thanks so much for stopping by!Jill Kemererhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07865493609868329393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-25475502377616302522011-06-13T11:10:54.836-04:002011-06-13T11:10:54.836-04:00Because I base my views on the word of God, I have...Because I base my views on the word of God, I have to say, marriage--thumbs up! (26 yrs. and counting!)Cynthia Herronhttp://cynthiaherron.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-43398370261782887542011-06-13T10:16:22.808-04:002011-06-13T10:16:22.808-04:00I like marriage.
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~ WendyI like marriage.<br /><br />:D<br />~ WendyWendy Paine Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15136235074351188350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-9177777639426212302011-06-13T08:52:08.492-04:002011-06-13T08:52:08.492-04:00It is tricky when people ask why I am 'still&#...It is tricky when people ask why I am 'still' single after 14 years of divorce. I wonder if Cameron gets asked why she isn't and grapples for a fresh answer too.<br /> I would love to be married again and believe it is a blessing designed by God. There was a time I believed different but thankfully His word is unchanging, changing me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911314544674287828.post-22841895394867724212011-06-13T08:50:09.909-04:002011-06-13T08:50:09.909-04:00That is a broad statement from someone in Hollywoo...That is a broad statement from someone in Hollywood where society weddings are splashed all over the magazines. So marriage is not for her, no need to say it's not for everyone.<br />I'll be celebrating my 16th wedding anniversary this month. Yes, it has ups and downs, but we are committed to each other and our family. Nothing outdated about that.Kelly Polarkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10968381456100611120noreply@blogger.com